“I’m very grateful for the way life has turned around. That bad people don’t stay and that good ones do. Though it has never been easy, I’m grateful for the life lessons, wisdom and understanding that comes from falling, because without it I would never have learnt to fly.” – ML Malta
We all make mistakes, especially when we’re in pain. You are more than the sum of a few stupid decisions. You are more than your mistakes. If people judge you by them, they really don’t know you. Your character should stand out and shine above the petty things. People will never know your truth, and who cares? Why should they? They certainly don’t need to! Who’s business is it to judge? I’m sure they’re not perfect. So why worry ourselves and destroy your own value and self worth because we’re so busy worrying about what other people think of us. Why worry about something we can’t change?! Move on.
People will never know what you’ve lived through. How hurt you’ve been, who, or how many hurt you, when, where or how long or often?! People will judge us on our moment’s of failure, but that failure isn’t an end, it’s a lesson. We grow, we learn and we mature. We’re constantly moving forward and developing. Don’t let the opinions of other’s – past or present, stop you from living your best life. You’re more than the opinions of sheep. We can’t allow pitfalls to leave us in the pit. You have to get up, shake off the dirt and get back on track. Forgive your naivety.
Start growing up and moving on with life. Life is with the living, the past is dead and buried. It is about time we heal. Leave it where it belongs – in the past. Take the lesson and forget the rest. Life is really too short to stress about silly mistakes. Please don’t waste another moment of your precious life harming yourself for being human.
You deserve to treat yourself with all the love and respect in the world. Follow your dreams and passion. Help people. Be kind to yourself and other’s. It is a start, and it definitely won’t be the end of a great life. Enjoy it. It’s your time to shine.
– ML Malta
Journey’s begin and end every day, yet it is the moment’s in between that carry us forward or hold us back. – M.L Malta
I’m so tired of people blaming everyone for their mistakes. Grow the hell up! ML Malta
Perceptions are versions of our individual truth. They are an accumulation of distorted images and sensory stimuli that create physiological, psychological and neurological responses to the world about us and the way we respond to it. Our memories and experiences are unique; they are based of an individual standpoint and mindset.
A single memory can trigger the way we interpret everything else because it may be a sensitivity we had not discovered about ourselves. Over time we stack them like bad chapters in decaying books. Being mindful and acknowledging the mind in its complexities, we may be able to see the simple world around us and how we shape it through our experiences.
We can change the way we interpret and fit the world around us. If we can reframe our past and file away those triggers so that we understand them, maybe we can find peace. Maybe, if we focus on the joy’s, rather than our fear and failures, we can build up rather than tear ourselves down. Maybe, in the darkness you can close your eyes and see yourself dancing without the noise and shine the light on your hope, strength and love.
Ⓒ ML Malta 2018
Looking back over my life, I have made some incredibly epic mistakes. I have made bad choices, been hurt, broken and torn. I put my joy in other people’s pockets and didn’t know myself, or my value. I wanted to be loved by people that don’t know how to.
I have been physically and emotionally abused for the better part of my whole life and through it all I’ve blossomed. I’ve overcome brokenness, adversities, health problems and massive life issue’s. Although there has been so much turbulence, I was incredibly blessed with two beautiful children that drive me to be a better and stronger person every day. To be a mother they love and look up to. I also now have a husband I love and who loves me equally as much, with all of our hearts and then some. Additionally, I have two step daughter’s that are amazing and a wonderful extended family, all in which i’m incredibly grateful for. But it has not always been so pleasant.
I had spent so much time feeling that love was not real, that people were just evil and I only lived because of my faith in God. I was born into an abusive home and I had health problems. I was sick and shattered from a young age. As a result I never had hope, and felt very alone. As I became older I found God, but it didn’t stop my hardships. I was a mess. As the years went on I went from abuse to abuse, after a while I stopped caring, I’d let myself be abused because I was so tired of fighting. Although I knew God I was destroyed by the evil in the world and I felt beaten. My understanding of God and faith was very immature and although I knew he was with me, I had so much to learn and grow through. Sometimes my kids and God were the only thing’s keeping me alive.
Life has been very hard and extremely judgmental. I used to feel ashamed by the lies my abusers said to protect themselves. I tried defending myself only to feel invisible and unheard, It was a difficult time being labeled and victimized. Feeling so vulnerable and alone was soul crushing. Iooking back I was caring too much about what others thought than who God said I was. I was seeking love from people that couldn’t give it. Inside I was a small girl crying out to be loved and cared for. Looking back I was immature, I didn’t understand what it really meant to be loved or how to live in faith because I was still living in fear. We can not meet everyone’s expectations and we are not perfect. Neither is anyone else. Life is not that easy. I felt lost. My identity felt misinterpreted and abused. People I cared about lied about me, abused me and accused me. So many lies, so many tears. Many relationships were fractured because of manipulation and lies. Everyone out for themselves regardless of anyone else. It can be sad world. It took a long time for me to stand on my feet and not care about the lies, or the past and just concern myself with me and who I am and want to become. I pity them now, especially the ones that have not changed.
I’ve grown. I’ve grown beyond their lies, the fears, the demons and the darkness. No longer under a shadow. I love the person God created me to be and am. I know I have value and it is not dependent on anyone! Not even myself. I am loved and beautiful. I don’t need people to hold me up, I just need God to hold me in his arm’s. I don’t need to listen to every voice screaming in my head, the peace that I chose to hear is all I’ll ever need. People think they know me, but they don’t. They heard stories, made up by a liar, or they saw me make mistakes. Sure I made mistakes, but one bad choice isn’t my identity and I refuse to accept it. My identity and life now has clear purpose and value. I don’t waste my thoughts, feelings or energy on unnecessary things or people and I refuse to live in the past.
The people we associate with and allow into our lives is extremely important, they shape the perception of us and our experiences. I have learnt to be mindful of my connections and not allow myself to be mistreated. I positioned myself with love. Whatever life throws at you, stand your ground and pray. Never lose hope, and above all, do not relinquish your faith into the arm’s of fear. You will survive the storm’s of life. Every day is a new day and an opportunity to grow beyond what life has done to you, or what you let happen to yourself. You are not a victim, you are in fact a warrior. You are an overcomer!
God has a plan to bless you and prosper you regardless of what any devil in hell might try to put you through. Raise your hopes and keep fighting. You will see change as you change. Grow from your experiences and become the person you know you are on the inside. Let yourself shine in the darkness until you reach the sun. Be the light and let it shine within you. I know mine felt like it was smouldering at times, but it never went out. I wouldn’t give in and give my enemies their wish! No! You fight and you fight and you fight well! I am not perfect, but I do know that to survive you need to grow. You get up every day, have a shower, eat, drink and move! Start researching anything and everything that will help you change your state of mind and move you physically into a better place or environment. Challenge your mindset, false beliefs, the lies and move forward. Make better choices, be better… do better! Leave the past behind you. Change your people and associations. People that are in a rut want company, don’t be their crutch. Do not settle! Get up out of that ditch and lead by example. Look after yourself! If they aren’t ready for change that’s their issue, change yourself. You can only control your outcome. Only you can choose LIFE.
ⒸML Malta 2018
“Never ALLOW your thoughts to become feelings you hate.” – ML Malta
Own your life, and own your outcomes by controlling your thoughts. Just because you think it, or it pops into your head does it mean it is true or you have to own it. Who really decides how you feel? YOU have the power to control your life, you don’t have to be driven by thoughts you don’t like. – ML Malta
It is easy to tell everyone how bad life is and effort to change it. I know life is hard. I know life is a struggle and there often seems to be no end to the trouble and hardships. But there is!
How often do you find yourself going through the same stuff over and over again? Reliving the same drama with different people? Or similar types of people with new problems? Life can give us the same lessons over and over until we break the pattern. What’s the lesson? Until we mature and understand the lesson, we can easily spend a large portion of our lives digging big old ugly ditches that feel like compacted mud. We just feel stuck. Learning takes time, it takes focused effort and dedication… if you want to change your life you need to start taking a look at what life is trying to teach you. The lessons could be simple, or difficult. Every lesson personalized for you to become your best self. The only way to find the lesson is start evaluating it, asking yourself questions and being honest with yourself.
We are often living our lives for other people, forgetting ourselves in the process. This can cause all sorts of problems to yourself, including other’s. Be true, be you. Make peace a priority, if anything for your sanity, i’m sure i’m not alone here. It all gets overwhelming! It isn’t our natural state. Become a better you today. Give your body the rest, nutrients and emotional peace it deserves. We are not designed to be in pain and stress.
What have you been overlooking, side stepping, putting off, forgetting, not forgiving, talking about, regretting, holding on to and replaying over and over in your mind? Our life and lessons are our own, however, the gifts of joy and peace are for those who seek it out and is possible for everyone to achieve. As they say, seek and you shall find. As corny as it sounds, it is true! If you truly want something bad enough you will do what ever is necessary to get there. Learn… ask questions, study, research, join groups, seek out people and the information to mature required to grow into the person you desire to be. Do what ever you can to get where you want to be!
Life happens, but you can change your experience of it. Remember, what you think about is what you attract and reaffirm. If we are constantly thinking about how hard life is how can we possibly feel good? Or if we are just angry and hard done by all the time, how can we see past it? Constantly dragging up and focusing on our torments creates a tormented mind. If we focused on the positive aspects of life we can have hope, and start seeking joy again. We have to take control of what we think about and how it is driving us. Moreso, to where?
It is possible to stop the noise in your head, it is possible to stop being depressed because you woke up that way, it is possible to heal from brokenness and be the person that’s waiting inside to come out and live.
Do not let the world and life steal your joy and life, it’s yours to take back! We need to be actively aware of the direction our lives are taking and take over the wheel. Participation in the development of yourself and your future is intrinsic to a better life. Do not sit idly by and watch it fall apart. Do not allow hopelessness to devour what is left! Take it back today! Right now! Make a choice and set yourself a plan. Do what ever it takes to save your life! If life has put you under a bus, don’t stay there! You are more than able to get up, drive that bus and regain control of it.
I believe in you, now you believe in yourself. You have got this and life doesn’t have to be set on a rinse and repeat cycle of despair. Your life is invaluable to the world, you might not feel that now, but it is. You are incredibly important. Just remember it won’t be easy, change never is, but if you persist – you will WIN!
How wonderful, to imagine a future that is bright, and hopeful regardless of life’s storms! What a truly great place to be.
Good luck on your journey and congratulations for making a step toward freedom.